Amid playful chatter
On a warm autumn day
We both turn at the same time
And glance to the horizon
The lazy afternoon sun mottles a wave
Glimmering its way toward us
Just us
No one else close
This one is ours – and ours alone.
—
Its a bigger one
A bombie (of sorts)
We have had fun chasing the slow winding waves
Across the shallow limestone reef
But this one looks a challenge
Enough to feel a shared adrenalin surge
—
We both paddle toward it
And I observe the quiet confidence
And raw determination in her eyes
I know that look
I have known it since she was a child
Locked in her sights
She has inside position
I cease to exist
This is her wave
—
‘You go’ I shout
(Like there was ever any chance she wouldn’t)
And I watch her swivel
Size up her position in the water
Back now arched
And eyes trained on the blue in front of her
She strokes strongly
And I watch her glide past me
Arms cycling until she feels it gather her
Sheets of white spray
Cascade back and for a moment
Her figure disappears from view
—
I watch her body move in time with the ocean
Grace and beauty
I sense her joy
I know she is smiling
Because she always smiles when she is stoked
And as she kicks out
I am bursting inside
I dad-wave to her
Proud of this girl
Once was afraid of the ocean
But who now has made it her second home
I learned recently that the musician Nick Cave has lost two of his sons – one in 2015 and another in 2022.
The recent Australian Story interview with him was one of the best discussions on grief I have heard, until I watched his interview with Colbert this morning, which I feel so grateful he did. I have linked to both of them below.
This interview with Colbert reflects deeply on how losing his sons has changed his entire perspective on life: https://youtu.be/G8qmV6MYCF4?feature=shared
This Australian Story episode includes a reflection on the impact it has had on his wife, which I found really moving: https://youtu.be/wXPIBFfA2Ho?feature=shared
The website he refers to in both videos can be found here: https://www.theredhandfiles.com/
His book explores this in more depth too.
His words have lifted me up today. I hope it does the same for you.
Take care xx